THINKING OUT LOUD

People often come up to me and say you seem to be upset or where are you lost or why are you so quiet?  So today I thought I would sit down and write about it.
Many times even though I am surrounded by many people my mind just wants to wander in my own world and just to make it clear most of the time I'm not upset. It's not because the people around me are boring but sometimes my world seems to be more interesting.  I feel there is something  more powerful inside my head than the outside world. And other times I prefer to avoid gossips.

We usually term people who talk less as "boring people" and we all prefer to be in the most entertaining groups. In today's time introverts or may be thinkers are not given the required space. In schools, people who talk less are often left out by teachers. I'm not saying communications skills are not important but introverts need to be given a platform to express their ideas and thoughts about different things. According to a recent study introverts perform better in academics and other activities than extroverts.

Even on social networking sites I feel suffocated because I feel its no longer a communicating platform but rather a window through which people love to peek into others life or other's who are just bragging about their so-called interesting lives.

I feel  it's good to have interesting extrovert people with great sense of humor but because of it don't ignore the introverts. Sit down and talk to them may be they have something amazing to share with you. Even though they might not make you laugh but they might just struck a chord and it might become a life changing experience for you.

A WORLD OF PERFECTION

A few days back, one of my aunts visited our place and was having a chit-chat with my mom(her sister). I was just reading newspaper and listening to their stories. My aunt was telling my mom about what kind of ‘bahu’ she wants for her son. The description list was very long but I would like to tell you the few important ones: she should be beautiful, educated, highly paid, good cook and from the same caste and religion. I was just thinking does she want a girl for her son or was she bargaining with God to come down and become her perfect ‘bahu’?

Aren’t we all like this we prefer things which would be accepted by the world or our community and it should seem perfect in the eyes of our people? Haven't our traditional ideologies kept us away from the meaning of true happiness? Are we living for ourselves or the world around us?

Perfect- does something like this actually exist? Its literal meaning is complete and flawless. I can’t relate this word to any part of my life. Does anything seem to be perfect around you? Your life?relations?your room?our country?politics? No. Anything that seems to be perfect today might turn out to be a disaster after a few days. Like an amateur writer whose first piece of writing seemed perfect to him at the time he published it but after he became a well-known writer his first piece just seemed to be the worst piece of writing to him. Even a perfect dress fades off after few years.

We just lose half of our lives in showing how perfect as a person we are or how perfect our relations or how perfect our homes or other materialistic things are. Aren't imperfect things great? I think they are. Because imperfection leads to perfection. We all are imperfect but we all work hard daily to reach that level of perfection(that level exists or not is a doubtful thing).
Is perfection and perception related? Perfection depends on perception. The worst thing in our life can be transformed into the most beautiful experience with slightly changing perception. A flower might seem useless to us but for an artist or a photographer it is the most beautiful thing in the world.
One day I was just waiting for my bus and suddenly there came a special child with her dad as she got into her bus the other kids in the bus were so happy, all were clapping hands and cheering for her. I just asked her father doesn't he feel bad to see her like this. He smiled for a few seconds and then replied that it took him few months to accept her. But now she is an angel for their family. She is purer than anyone of them as she can't lie or see them upset. Because of her their whole family stays happy as she can't see anyone upset. She has made their lives complete and she's flawless. He said she's the perfect gift by God to them.
That special child might be imperfect in our eyes but the way his family sees her like a blessing there lives have turned out to ‘perfect’ because of her.

If you keep on cribbing about every other thing or person in your life, you would only be dissatisfied and feel useless. But if you keep looking for goodness in people and things around you, you would surely end up having a perfect life even though it has many imperfections.